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"Because I am female, I am expected to aspire to marriage. I am expected to make my life choices always keeping in mind that marriage is the most important. Now, marriage can be a good thing. It can be a source of joy and love and mutual support, but why do we teach girls to aspire to marriage and we don’t teach boys the same? [...] A woman at a certain age who is unmarried, our society teaches her to see it as a deep personal failure. And a man at a certain who is unmarried, we just think he hasn’t come around to making his pick. It’s easy for us to say, “Oh, but women can just say ‘no’ to all of this.” But the reality is more difficult and more complex. We are all social beings. We internalize ideas from our socialization." [We should all be feminists @chimamanda_adichie] 🧠 Now, I think it's perfectly fine if you do want to get married. It's also perfectly fine if you don't. It is after all an extremely personal decision. But please stop valuing women by their marital status. Marriage is still so deeply rooted in patriarchy, gender inequality and heteronormativity. Stop feeding girls the idea that marriage is an accomplishment (guess what, it doesn't actually require any skill to get married). When getting married is viewed an achievement for women, the men become the only thing of value in life. Our identity is so much more than that. We are the knowledge we have and the value we bring to the table. Women don't necessarily need marriage for economic stability anymore. Finding a partner and raising kids doesn't have to be your end game. Getting married does not make you any more or less important to your friends, family or society than as a single woman. Your status is reflected by the contribution you make towards society, irrespective of who you chose to marry and when. I want us all to start celebrating academic and professional pursuits of women just the way we do with their marriages. Yes, be excited when your sister, best friends and female co-workers announce their marriages, but please be just as excited, if not more, when they land the management position, get their Master's degree or open their own business. 💪🏼

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